28. Pastoral care of emotionally wounded young persons (Index)

PASTORAL CARE OF EMOTIONALLY WOUNDED YOUNG PERSONS
INDEX

CHAPTER 1:INTRODUCTION

  • Storm-and-stress of the adolescent years
  • Identity crisis
  • ‘Soul wounds’
  • Long-term consequences  
  • Finally breaking free from a painful past

CHAPTER 2: INTEGRATION OF DIFFERENT APPROACHES

  • Connected approaches
    • The strength perspective    
    • The ‘inner child’ perspective
    • The growth-model and the recovery movement
  • Positive psychology
  • Inner healing  
  • The integrated approach of the Meier Clinics

CHAPTER 3: WHAT IS EMOTIONAL TRAUMA / ABUSE?

  • Statistics
  • Definitions

CHAPTER 4: PAIN BEGINS IN THE PAST 

  • Influence of the formative years 
  • Influence of parents as role models
  • The role of the mother  
  • The role of the father
  • The pain of the past keeps recurring
  • Children are not allowed to cry 
  • Shame and anger from the womb   
  • Basic needs of each person

CHAPTER 5: PROBLEM AREAS AND CAUSES

  • Broken families    
  • The rigid family  
  • The chaotic family
    • The enmeshed family    
    • The disengaged family  
    • The attached family
  • Family-ties not in place 
  • The child who has to act as an adult
  • Family secrets
  • Rejection 
  • Divorce
  • Rape, molestation and incest 
  • Intergenerational factors    
  • Pain resulting from toxic religion
  • Bullying
  • The influence of social media and technology    
  • An inadequate school system

CHAPTER 6: THE IMPACT OF TRAUMA ON THE BRAIN  

  • The child’s brain  
      • The role of triggers
  • Dreams  
  • Smells    
  • Colours
  • Deeper roots for surface problems
  • The consequences of a traumatised brain
  • The resulting impact of trauma on an adolescent  
  • Trauma changes people forever  
  • Suppressed trauma
  • The steam pot effect 

CHAPTER 7: THE EFFECT OF EMOTIONAL TRAUMA 

  • Case  study
  • Some further examples 
  • Typical behavioural patterns of the wounded person
  • Flashing red lights    

CHAPTER 8: AREAS WHERE UNRESOLVED PAIN MANIFESTS

  • Depression
  • Anxiety and fear   
  • Suicide
  • Physical problems    
  • Anger  
  • A few case studies 
  • Addiction
  • Pornography   
  • Eating disorders
  • Relationship problems 

CHAPTER 9: A PROPOSED PASTORAL MODEL 

  • General guidelines for the counsellor
    • Ignore the message to leave them alone
    • Try to create a safe environment
    • Establish a trust relationship   
    • Maintain confidentiality  
    • Try to identify the family’s strengths
    • Try to identify the teenager’s strengths 
    • All facts should be disclosed   
    • Eight key questions for evaluation    
  • Try to understand the nature of the trauma and woundedness in this person’s life
    • Explore trauma memories and associated responses
    • Defuse any harmful affective responses
    • Show understanding of the feelings and message behind the acting out
    • Establish connections and engagements
    • Four effective techniques  
    • The importance of telling    
    • Lies must be identified
    • Emotions must be accessed  
    • Never leave a teenager in the lurch  
  • Guidelines for the healing process of the adolescent self
    • Go back 
    • Gain insight into your childhood programming 
    • Confession   
    • Distance yourself from self-condemnation    
    • Embrace the wounded inner-child 
    • You must show courage    
    • The importance of a grieving process
    • Forgiveness    
    • Renew and restore 
    • Discovering your own identity
    • Establish appropriate boundaries 
    • The hope of restoration
    • Experience your joy  
  • Planning around a long-term strategy
    • Questions about an imaginary journey into the future 
    • Plan with the view of creating a better future social environment  
    • Teach the teenager certain specific survival strategies
    • No more blame
    • Use sober thinking in order to avoid conflict 
    • Nine steps if new painful situations arise
    • Establishing and building a strong faith
    • Discovering your talents and gifts 
    • Eventually leaving the counsellor and small group behind
  • Signs of eventual healing
  • Healing from trauma leads to a new vision for the future

APPENDIX A:  Symptoms of the emotionally wounded person

APPENDIX B:  Possible signs of rejection

APPENDIX C:  Background inventory of counselee

APPENDIX D:  My true identity: Who am I in Christ?

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