17. Abortion, miscarriage and stillbirth (Index)





CHPT 1:  THE PHASE BETWEEN CONCEPTION AND BIRTH                                 

  • Introduction                                                                                                                       
  • The Lord can already be busy with the unborn child in a special way             
  • Influence of the mother                                                                                                  
  • Influence of the father                                                                                                     
  • Development within the womb                                                                                    
  • Birth of the child                                                                                                               
  • Bonding                                                                                                                             
  • Some more ministry situations                                                                                    


Nancy Michels, William Wilson & Kenneth McAll

  • The loss of a loved one - a severed bond and a deep wound                             
  • God's purpose in human bonding                                                                              
  • Wounds suffered from miscarriages, abortions, and infant death                     
  • Which children are affected?                                                                                        
    • The wanted child                                                                                                       
    • The haunted child                                                                                                     
    • The bound child                                                                                                         
    • The substitute child                                                                                                  
    • Attempted abortion                                                                                                   
  • Sometimes meaningful to include the whole family in the counseling process                                                                                                        


CHPT 3: THE INFLUENCE OF ABORTION ON MEN                                                    
John W Kennedy & Nancy Michels

  • Huge need, tiny budgets                                                                                               
  • Effects on men                                                                                                                 
  • Finding forgiveness                                                                                                        
  • Sometimes it’s a long struggle                                                                                     
  • Crisis regarding the dad’s rights                                                                                 
  • Role confusion                                                                                                                 
    • Dominancy/power                                                                                                            
    • Aggression/activity                                                                                                   
    • Self-reliance/autonomy                                                                                           
    • Achievement/success                                                                                                     
    • Responsibility/protectiveness                                                                                       
  • Understanding men's emotional energy                                                                   
  • Relationship with partner affected                                                                              
  • What does the male really feel?                                                                                   
  • Fatherhood lost                                                                                                                
  • How a man can cope with guilt and grief                                                                  


CHPT 4: THE EMOTIONAL EFFECTS OF ABORTION                                                
Nancy Michels

  • Emotional relief usually very brief                                                                                      
  • Typical emotional reactions as a result of PAS
  • Five typical characteristics of Post Abortion Syndrome (PAS)                                  
    • The presence of the stressor event
    • Re-experiencing the abortion
    • Avoidance phenomena
    • Experiencing at least two of the following symptoms
    • She can be categorized according to one of three PAS groups
      • Those not stressed
      • Those stressed either acutely or chronically
      • Those not currently stressed but who are at risk due to a delayed reaction
  •  Which women are likely to suffer from PAS?
  • Special risks to adolescents
  • Response to therapeutic abortions
  • Defence mechanisms used by aborted women
    • Rationalization 
    • Suppression
    • Repression
    • Compensation


CHPT 5: THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-FORGIVENESS                                         
Nancy Michels

  • Pray about the identity
  • Low self-image fostered by misbeliefs
  • Why does the woman need to forgive herself?
  • The woman must decide to forgive herself
  • If you've had an abortion
    • Prayer
    • Holy Communion
    • A caring network
    • Expressing your feelings on paper
    • You can commit the baby to God
  • Healing is a process, not an event


CHPT  6:  ABORTION AND CHILD ABUSE - MOVING ON                                           
Nancy Michels

  • Abortion and child abuse                                                                                              
  • Abortion's other effects on children                                                                           
    • Suicide                                                                                                                          
    • Diminishing value of children                                                                                 
  • How to fight negative side effects of abortion                                             
  • Ministry to those who mourn the loss of children                                                  
  • Post-abortion syndrome                                                                                          
  • Eight stages after abortion                                                                                      
  • Prayer guidelines                                                                                                             
    • Re-experiencing the trauma                                                                                   
    • Going back to the scene                                                                                          
    • Pray into the starting point of the pain                                                                 
    • Emotional ties                                                                                                             
  • Nine steps for personal growth after an abortion                                                   


APPENDIX  1:  Births of the individual from conception to age five