Questionnaires - Part - 2 - Index

Questionnaires - Part - 1 - Index

HEALING FOR EMOTIONAL PAIN - CONTENTS

HEALING FOR EMOTIONAL PAIN - CONTENTS

CHAPTER 1 EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE FROM THE PAST

  • Emotions
    • The pressure cooker effect
    • Where does the biggest damage usually take place?
  • It helps tdivide your life intphases
    • Pre-birth
    • Birth process
    • Phase from birth tfirst school day
    • Are you an adopted child?
    • Primary school years
    • High school years
    • After school
  • What are the triggers in your life?
  • Important tcome in touch with your emotions and memories
  • Twexamples in conclusion

CHAPTER 2 THE ROLE OF FEAR

  • A spiritual war
  • But there is a solution
  • Identify the fear
  • Abnormal fears
  • Emotional wounds
  • Money
    • Healing usually starts with repentance
  • Fear blocks healing
  • Panic attacks
  • What are the fears you are battling with up till today?

CHAPTER 3 THE POWER OF THE LIE

  • Typical lies in the life of the molested child
    • Lies about yourself
    • Lies about others
    • Lies about the world around you
    • Lies about God
  • What is the truth?
    • You are special tGod
    • The broken person must hear the truth
  • The necessity of reprogramming
    • Practical steps
  • The strongholds are demolished
  • Jesus Christ is alsKing of my subconscious

CHAPTER 4 UNHEALTHY EMOTIONAL BONDS

  • What is an emotional bond?
  • Biblical principles about emotional bonds
    • Tbe joined
    • Fellowship
  • Holy emotional bonds
    • Marriage bonds
    • Friendship bonds
    • Parent/child bond
    • Bonds between Christians
  • Unholy emotional bonds
    • Bonds due tadultery / fornication
    • Bonds due tforced forbidden sexual contact
    • Fantasising
    • Physical contact (laying on of hands)
    • Bonds due ttraumatic experiences
    • Bonds due tbad friendships
    • Any abnormal dependence between twpersons
    • Bonds with a place or object
    • Unholy family bonds
    • Bonds of previous romantic relationships
    • Emotional bonds with the dead
    • Bond with an aborted baby
    • Emotional bonds with previous marriage partners
    • Unhealthy bonds within the church
  • The breaking of unholy emotional bonds
    • Forgiveness
    • Confession
    • Taking a stand
    • Be very specific when you pray these prayers
  • Beware of future unhealthy emotional bonds

CHAPTER 5 EMOTIONAL PAIN REGARDING SEXUALITY

  • How does sexual addiction get a hold?
    • Levels of addiction
    • Pain and hurt from the past
    • Actuality
  • Rape, molestation, incest
    • Physical problems
    • Standard question
    • Conflict in contrasting emotions
    • Typical symptoms of unresolved sexual trauma
  • Abortion, miscarriage and still birth

CHAPTER 6 THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS

  • Fruits of unforgiveness
  • Complicating factors
    • A prolonged, deep, underlying bitterness
    • The lack of a role model
    • The senselessness of trauma
  • Retrospectively God gives me perspective
  • A passion thelp others
  • What is forgiveness really?
    • Forgiveness is a process
    • The perpetrator's past
  • Forgiveness and physical problems

CHAPTER 7 HOW DI HEAR GOD'S VOICE?

  • Eyes and ears of the flesh dnot always tell the truth
  • How does God speak?
    • God speaks through circumstances
    • God speaks through His Word
    • God speaks through inner peace
    • God sometimes speaks through somebody else
    • A word of knowledge
    • Dreams
    • Visions
    • A 'picture' or an image in the mind's eye
    • Audible voice
    • Prophetic words
    • Satan’s counterfeits
  • Practical guidelines
    • Place the promise first on a shelf for a while
    • Distinguish between what stands irrevocably firm and what is an invitation
    • Discuss it with your spiritual leader
    • God has a vision for your life

CHAPTER 8 THE ROAD AHEAD

  • The beginning of a process
  • Some roots lie very deep
  • Satan will definitely test you
  • A support group
  • Spiritual weapons
    • Forgiveness
    • Remorse and confession
    • The truth
    • The name of Jesus Christ and the blood of the Lamb of God
    • Praise singing and worshipping
    • The spiritual armoury of Eph 6:11-18

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TRAUMA BONDS

TRAUMA BONDS - CONTENTS

CHAPTER 1: INTRODUCTION

  • The Stockholm syndrome
  • The negative side of bonding
  • Typical situations and contexts
  • Topicality
  • Definition of a trauma bond

CHAPTER 2: THE ATTACHMENT PROCESS

  • The theory of attachment
    • The genetic factor
    • Important factors regarding bonding
    • A window of opportunity that has to be utilized
    • What happens when a window of opportunity is not utilized?
    • Classification of attachment
    • How does abuse and neglect influence attachment?
    • Are attachment problems always associated with abuse and neglect?
    • The importance of positive attachments
  • The role of oxytocin
    • Risk factors
    • The importance of social neuroscience
    • The occurrence of attachment with voles
    • Oxytocin and PTSD
    • Future research regarding oxytocin
  • Further perceptions regarding the biological impact of unresolved trauma

CHAPTER 3: HOW TRAUMA AFFECTS PEOPLE

  • Eight ways in which trauma can affect people
    • Trauma reaction
    • Trauma pleasure / arousal
    • Trauma blocking
    • Trauma fragmenting (splitting)
    • Trauma abstinence
    • Trauma shame
    • Trauma repetition

CHAPTER 4: SYMPTOMS, CHARACTERISTICS AND THE CONSEQUENCES OF TRAUMA BONDS

CHAPTER 5: TYPICAL SITUATIONS THAT ARE CONDUCIVE TO THE ESTABLISHMENT OF TRAUMA BONDS

  • Senseless or Illogical loyalty
  • Indications of the presence of trauma bonds
  • Trauma attachment / bonds as an addiction
    • Five important realities regarding trauma bonds
      • Trauma bonds seldom pose separately
      • Trauma bonds and their allies might become a life pattern
      • Trauma bonds can become a long-term process
      • Any person can become a potential candidate of trauma bonds
      • Trauma bonds are not necessarily bad although it focuses on survival
  • Typical situations in which trauma bonds may occur
    • Narcissism
    • Human trafficking
      • Goals
      • The process of annihilation
      • Punishment
      • Intervention strategies
      • Obstacles during the healing process
      • Conclusion

CHAPTER 6: TACTICS AND STRATEGY OF THE VICTIMIZER

  • The victim is deprived of his/her right to make decisions
  • Reinforcement and confirmation of trauma bonds
    • Two important characteristics
    • Transference of balance of power
    • A social trap
    • Bound by trauma as if with elastic
    • Walker’s three phases

CHAPTER 7: GENERAL PRACTICAL GUIDELINES

  • General guidelines
  • Guidelines regarding a recovery plan by Patrick Carnes
    • Further steps to the healing process
      • Healing plan concerning reaction to trauma
      • Healing plan concerning arousal
      • Healing plan concerning blocking of emotions
      • Healing plan concerning splitting
      • Healing plan concerning deprivation / abstinence
      • Healing plan concerning shame/humiliation
      • Healing plan concerning repetition compulsion

CHAPTER 8: PRACTICAL GUIDELINES REGARDING CHILDREN

  • Nurturing and caring for such children
  • Before applying punishment first try to understand the behaviour
  • Interaction with such children has to take place in accordance with their emotional age
  • Be consistent, predictable and repetitive
  • Demonstrate and teach correct social behaviour
  • Make time to listen and talk to these children
  • Realistic expectations regarding these children
  • Be patient with yourself as well as the progress of the child
  • You have to look after yourself as well
  • Utilize other resources as well

CHAPTER 9: PASTORAL PERSPECTIVES

  • Trauma and betrayal in the spiritual field
  • Prayer guidelines
  • Identify possible blockages regarding bonding between mother and child
    • Problems regarding bonding between mother and child
  • Ask God to remove the obstacle
  • Ask God for a “new” birth experience
  • Conclusion

ANNEXURE A: Post-traumatic stress index

ANNEXURE B: The process of the development of trauma bonds

ANNEXURE C: Important web pages regarding trauma bonds

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